Ok, so our school ball isn't until next year, but a while ago one of the guys worked up the courage to actually ask a girl to go with him, sending off this massive chain reaction that hit half the guys in our year, thus sparking this long list of "Will you go to the ball with me?"
It's sort of slowed down a bit now, but that means everyone can look around and take in the damage. No massive fights (that I know of, and I normally know) over anyone, or anything dramatic like that, but for some reason there's now a whole lot of ball-date-less girls wandering around discussing all the guys left in our year who are similarly date-less and deciding which one they'd like to ask them, and then panicking about "What happens if I don't have a partner?"
The thing is, though, there are more girls than guys in our year, and there's a limit to how many people from out of school can be invited, since there's a person capacity for the place we're going. So, yes, even if every guy in our year did pair of with someone, there'd probably still be date-less girls on the night. And almost every girl is determined to make sure that's not them.
I just don't get why it's such a big issue not to have a date. (Disclosure: I'm currently not going with anyone, but this isn't going to be an angry bitter rant about "why won't anyone ask me".) See, even if every single one of my friends paired off, most of them are only going with their dates as friends, because they want to take someone. So it's not like I'd be all alone- no matter how it goes, it's still going to be a case of partying with my friends. There's only about two couples I'm friends with that it would be awkward and potentially sickening to be around.
And the second reason is that- I don't want to go with someone just because I don't want to be dateless. I'd rather go 'alone' (even though I'd be with all my friends) than go with someone I hardly talk to, like some of the more desperate girls I know are planning. Some of my friends have suggested that I go with one of the two unpaired guys in our group (he was sick for the two weeks all this happened in, and the other one's just shy). But the thing is, even though he's "in the group" I hardly talk to him. Going with him really would be awkward. If I go with anyone, I want to go with someone I'm actually really good friends with.
(You'll note that I haven't even brought up the whole "I've got a crush on this guy but he doesn't like me/has a girlfriend/whatever" thing. That's because I'm not here to give relationship advice, and I'd probably suck at it. None of my friend listen to me, anyway)
But the overall message here is:
Girls, guys- don't feel bad if you're 'dateless' to your ball/prom/party/other. Remember: You have friends, and it's a little bit sad if you would have ditched them for the night if you were with someone. Party with them. And if you are going with someone, don't forget your other friends. (you know who you are, people likely to do this.)
(And in a continued full disclosure, I should probably add that:
1: I generally have a low opinion of most of the guys at school.
2: I do have 'backups' if I do decide later that I'll die without a date.
3: I have at least one girl friend who feels more or less the same way, so even if every other person in our year magically paired off, I still wouldn't be 'alone', unless one of us finds someone we really like in the next several months. In which case, we've both promised not to ditch each other.)
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